Wow we have just had a representative in the studio from UK Online Dating Site ‘Very Naughty’ and they have been inundated with exciting new lady members called Swofties. These ladies are not your run of the mill over fifties – married – settled and stable. No sir these trendy girls  have shed the man in their life and are free mobile and flexible. They are fashion conscious while at the same time prone to acting and behaving as though still in their twenties.

So why are they joining the UK Online Dating Site ‘Very Naughty’ when they are not on the lookout for a man, that is easy to explain they are after sex and they know they can find all the sex they need and more on ‘Very Naughty!’

But hey for all these Swofties joining an online dating site is a plus as the girls are often very special and often have lots of class – so having Swofties who are over fifty years old and on the lookout for fun and entertainment is just fine as men are always up for a bit of totty with a touch of class.

So a hearty welcome goes out to all the Swofties who are on the prowl looking for that bit extra from NSA Sex!

UK Online Dating Site ‘Very Naughty’ is Inundated with New Swofties over 50!

Very Naughty Profile – meaning – Join Very Naughty adult sex dating site free of charge. Search or browse profiles of sexy women looking for men, discreet NSA casual dating and fun. – Attribution to VeryNaughty.Co.Uk

Legend

Swofties – meaning – Single women over 50 – Independent – Financially Stable – Not Looking for a lifetime partner – trendy dressers – physically fit and in the main very sexy  – Cougars over 50 – Attribution to Ozami.Net

For most people in UK by the end of August to early September is the time when Summer holidays are over for millions and it is time to plan your activities for the last third of 2012
So here is our activities guide on Ozami.Net hope we say the right things for you…

We are not going to spill any surprises in fact we are going to suggest that care and caution are the flavor for September – October – November – December then out goes 2012

Work – Our recommendation is that everyone works hard and diligently and for the millions who have a boss – go that extra yard with commitment put in an extra 3 for 4 hours a week unpaid. I can hear some saying no way but we believe it will pay dividends and keep you in work for both now  and all of the next year. Why do we say this? Because the world economy is still in bad shape with high unemployment figures the order of the day in many countries. Give back something to your boss he will notice even if he does not say anything. We just want you all to be in work and by giving that little extra maybe is the key to your future employment.

Money – Be thrifty now is not the time to spend – spend – spend. Do not be hitting hard on your credit card as it is all to be paid back plus interest. We know this will not possible for many, but save if you can even if it is only a few UK pounds each week. Plus let us look on the bright side keeping a shackle on  spending could well be the way to go as it will ease you through the coming winter months. Then we will be into 2013 and let’s all hope that 2013 marks the end of this long and painful world recession. Remember life is always much better when you have an optimistic outlook.

Love – Now here is where in our opinion the gloves come off. Meaning that if love is around the corner go for it – what the heck – you only live once. For those who have no plans re a new romance  why not make it happen for you by doing some online dating. The good news is you can do the hooking up from the comfort of your armchair and here is how as soon as ‘Big Brother’ pops up on TV. This is a perfect time close off the TV or keep one eye on the set waiting for the single nano second of entertainment they may dish up in the whole show. The rest of the time logon to either or both  Very Naughty and Saucy Dating your online dating resources for all that is best in sex and rock n roll forget the drugs bit we can do without them. For any people not yet a member on Very Naughty and Saucy Dating it’s time you joined because you are sure to find a guy take note all you girls out there. Regarding the guys what is your fancy – young leggy and sexy – NSA Milf – Posh Lover – or just the girl next door who has trouble keeping her panties on. Now here is the kicker the credits are closing off Big Brother and in less than an hour you are likely to get 2 or 3 requests from Very Naughty and Saucy Dating both girls and boys who want to hook up for sex.

Let me consolidate on both  these online dating sites I am a guy and I usually logon on say three times a week for an hour or so, and in a typical week I meet up with at least three horny NSA Milfs it’s great for me, as work is very important for me right now and I am not looking for a serious relationship, but I am looking for a ….  Anyone any idea what the missing last word is?

Planning Love – Money and Work in the last Third of 2012…

Pursuit and Distance in Online Dating – Part 2

…..part 1 can be found here…..

Tips On Handling Pursuit & Distance

Accept that sending an email to someone you like the look of but you do not yet know is a far cry from going on a date. This is not meant to put you off, however, you do need a willing partner to start the pendulum of a relationship swinging.

Some people will be shy, or not used to online dating. It can be difficult to assess this from a member’s profile on a dating site, so patience is a virtue when it comes to waiting for people to reply, they may be interested but need to build up the confidence to reply, if you bombard people with emails it may scare them off.

An email not returned is possibly worth a second attempt later, but if you still hear nothing then leave it, accept that the other person is not interested and move on. By not doing this you are in danger of becoming a harasser, and although this may not reflect your true personality it can come across this way, we all have to apply self control at some point in our lives.

If someone does not reply to your email, or they suddenly stop replying during a conversation, accept it and do not take it to heart. There are many reasons why someone will not reply to an email, they could have met someone else, got back with an ex, given up on dating, or they could be on holiday, or busy with work. Again, the more you pursue, the less likely the other person will be to contact you.

Accept and understand that there are people on dating dating sites with all kinds of agendas and some of those will never end up going on a date. They could be getting over an ex, making an ex jealous, massaging their ego, or even just ‘half looking’. No matter how much you try, these people will always be out of reach and your time is far better spent meeting genuine daters.

If in doubt – Move on! Don’t waste time waiting for that special someone to reply, you’re all in the same boat and you shouldn’t feel guilty for emailing as many people as you like, until you reach the dating stage it’s all about seeing who is out there, you’re not committed to speaking with just one person. Meanwhile, you just might get that email you’re waiting for!

Don’t demand answers on why someone is not interested or has stopped replying to emails, just accept that for ‘whatever reason’, it’s time to move on, if they come back great, if not don’t let it perplex you, it is obviously not meant to be at that time, and again, by demanding answers you are in the danger zone of becoming a ‘harasser’.

Basic advice is to look at online dating as a lighthearted affair to begin with, and learn to take rejection like an adult. If someone is not interested, it’s their loss, but to get nasty or accuse people of time wasting is in itself a waste of time. Be mature and adult about it, you don’t have a god-given right to date the people you add as favourites. If you play it cool and respect the dance of pursuit and distance, you will find online dating sites far more rewarding, and once you have fine tuned your approach, and you can apply it to everyday life later!

The main rule of thumb, and one which will stand you in good stead is to never pursue a distancer, it will never work out in the long run and you will save yourself a lot of heartache. Love is a two way game and it needs two people willing to play and do you really want to end up someone just because they ‘gave in’ or would you rather be with someone who genuinely wants to be with you!?

Pursuit and Distance in Online Dating

Every heard of ‘pursuit and distance’? You may or may not know this term, but you can be sure you’ll have danced to its tune at some point in your life!

‘Pursuit and distance’ is a term given to describe how humans engage in relationships, it is about balance, there is the ‘pursuer’ and the ‘escapee’ and it can be applied to man and wife, parent and child, worker and employee, even friends can sometimes play this difficult game.

Pursuit and Distance In Day To Day Life

This dance of chase and avoidance has been covered in books, poems, literature and films for a very long time, it is a part of human nature. It is a popular subject and one which has been highlighted recently in the Golden Globe award winning ITV1 drama ‘Downton Abbey’. Set in ‘God’s Country’ (Yorkshire). The two lead characters of this quintessentially English costume drama, engage fully in the dance of pursuit and distance. Viewers can relate very well to the script, as will all have taken part in the dance of pursuit and distance at some time or another.

Pursuit and distance is a popular subject for those who specialise in psychological patterns and research. It is studied and written about from marriage counseling to family counseling and can be used in therapy to help pursuers understand their actions and hopefully change their behavior to live a more fruitful and rewarding life and not one based on an endless chase.

It is a fine balance and one which we, as humans, play every day. It could be a mother missing her son who has flown the nest, it’s a hard lesson but children have to make their own way at some point in life and a parent has to understand the boundaries so as not to become a hindrance, whilst still enjoying a happy balanced relationship with their child or children. It could be between two friends, one friend is a bit too keen and can’t understand why the more he or she tries to arrange nights out the less it seems to happen.

Pursuit and distance is usually a game we play and understand without realising, but some times, in certain situations, it can lead to displays of obsessive behaviour. Imagine pursuit and distance as a pendulum, it swings from side to side in a relationship, but in some cases, if pushed too hard from one side it can swing too heavily in the one direction; the more one person pursues, the more the other person tries to avoid contact.

Pursuit and Distance & Online Dating

With the above in mind, we can use the equation for a successful and happy time in online dating.

By respecting and understanding this game of ‘kiss chase’ when meeting someone new, we can get so much more from dating sites.

An online dating site is simply a database full of single people all looking for their special ‘someone’ to date, whether it be for love, friendship or a casual fling. But the way in which we use the site can determine how successful we are.

It is easy to assume that just because someone is there in front of us on the screen they’re ‘up for chatting’ and just because someone has viewed your profile, they will a) want a relationship and b) reply to an email in minutes. In reality, it is fair to assume that if you don’t receive a reply from an email after that person has viewed your profile, there will be no point in sending a third or fourth email. Even if you do receive an email, by appearing too keen you can become a ‘pursuer’ and early on in a friendship, this will not come across well to a prospective partner.
…..click for part two