Relationships – Sex with your ex Yes or No?
Having Sex with your ex, good or bad idea?
However it isn’t that uncomplicated, it is very easy for old feelings to resurface and unrealistic expectations of reconciliation can lead to disappointment.
Your relationship wasn’t working so you split up. But your split-up isn’t working too well either. You are single, miserable and surrounded by irritatingly loved-up couples and ever-so-happy families. With Christmas coming, a spot of “no strings” sexual solace in the arms of your ex starts to seem like the solution. Sex with your ex can be very tempting if your ex was the greatest lover you ever had or if you are still physically attracted to them. However, having sex with an ex, no matter how shallow or deep and intimate the relationship was, can be very tricky. Here is a list of the pros and cons of sex with your ex, and how to go about it wisely:
Sex with the ex is appealing for many reasons. We feel comfortable with them, both inside and outside the bedroom. A new relationship or hook-up is generally awkward, and first-time sex is always a little uncomfortable. When having sex with an ex, we know their likes, their dislikes and they know ours as well. Sexual familiarity means the sex will probably be very pleasurable. Sex with an ex often feels like the obvious answer especially if your sex life before you broke up was amazing
It’s certainly cheaper. No need for expensive dates or elaborate mating ritual, it’s so much easier than starting something new. There’s a comfort level that comes with knowing someone really well that new relationships just don’t provide.
Instead of remembering all the reasons you broke up, you start fantasizing about her soft, warm body up against yours or his big strong arms tightly wrapped around you making you feel safe. And before you know it you have convinced yourself that you can overcome any residual anger or upset and selflessly help each other through the night.
Next comes the reality check. Sex with your ex might relight your fire, but all the baggage that brought you down will still be there in the morning, safe sex is now an issue, too. It’s difficult to admit to having had sex with someone else, so even if your ex promises you that they have been celibate since you split, you will need to use condoms just in case.