Going to bed with your ex- a good or bad idea?

Part 1 of sex with your ex can be found here.

1. Question your motives, a lot of men sometimes go back into old relationships because it’s an easy way of affirming that they are still attractive. The problem is that it sends mixed messages to your ex and is likely to leave you feeling very confused too. Women on the other hand rarely resurrect a sexual relationship with an ex-partner with the express intention of keeping it casual, so if you don’t want to get involved with again don’t go there.
2. If you do want to get back with your ex you will need to work out what went wrong last time if things are going to be different this time, consider therapy and counseling.

If after reading the pros and cons you still believe having sex with your ex is a good idea, here is a guide to make sure you go into it wisely and with realistic expectations:

1- Allow enough time to pass.

Even if you’ve had the most amicable breakup, you still need enough time to cool off before going back into anything intimate. The longer you went out together the longer you need to stay away. This might mean a couple of months for some people, for others it could be a year or more. If the break-up ended with raging arguments, screaming and crying you should wait even longer.

2- Make your intentions clear.

Let your ex no that you are not under any circumstances interested in getting back together and are only looking for a little fun. In fact, you may even want to drop hints about dating other people so that it’s plainly obvious you’re only interested in sex. If you dated for long enough, you should know whether your partner is the type to be OK with that or not. Many people are perfectly fine with a purely sexual relationship, but if you get a hint that your partner is even remotely interested in getting back with you stay far, far, away.

It might be easier to just lie there after you’ve done the deed, but you’re setting yourself up for a potential mess by staying over. Sleepovers are for relationships, not exes who are now friends-with-benefits. Next thing you know, she’ll be cooking you breakfast and the two of you will be shopping for furniture. When you’re done doing the deed and you’ve cleaned up, get out.