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Pursuit and Distance in Online Dating
‘Pursuit and distance’ is a term given to describe how humans engage in relationships, it is about balance, there is the ‘pursuer’ and the ‘escapee’ and it can be applied to man and wife, parent and child, worker and employee, even friends can sometimes play this difficult game.
Pursuit and Distance In Day To Day Life
This dance of chase and avoidance has been covered in books, poems, literature and films for a very long time, it is a part of human nature. It is a popular subject and one which has been highlighted recently in the Golden Globe award winning ITV1 drama ‘Downton Abbey’. Set in ‘God’s Country’ (Yorkshire). The two lead characters of this quintessentially English costume drama, engage fully in the dance of pursuit and distance. Viewers can relate very well to the script, as will all have taken part in the dance of pursuit and distance at some time or another.
Pursuit and distance is a popular subject for those who specialise in psychological patterns and research. It is studied and written about from marriage counseling to family counseling and can be used in therapy to help pursuers understand their actions and hopefully change their behavior to live a more fruitful and rewarding life and not one based on an endless chase.
It is a fine balance and one which we, as humans, play every day. It could be a mother missing her son who has flown the nest, it’s a hard lesson but children have to make their own way at some point in life and a parent has to understand the boundaries so as not to become a hindrance, whilst still enjoying a happy balanced relationship with their child or children. It could be between two friends, one friend is a bit too keen and can’t understand why the more he or she tries to arrange nights out the less it seems to happen.
Pursuit and distance is usually a game we play and understand without realising, but some times, in certain situations, it can lead to displays of obsessive behaviour. Imagine pursuit and distance as a pendulum, it swings from side to side in a relationship, but in some cases, if pushed too hard from one side it can swing too heavily in the one direction; the more one person pursues, the more the other person tries to avoid contact.
Pursuit and Distance & Online Dating
With the above in mind, we can use the equation for a successful and happy time in online dating.
By respecting and understanding this game of ‘kiss chase’ when meeting someone new, we can get so much more from dating sites.
An online dating site is simply a database full of single people all looking for their special ‘someone’ to date, whether it be for love, friendship or a casual fling. But the way in which we use the site can determine how successful we are.
It is easy to assume that just because someone is there in front of us on the screen they’re ‘up for chatting’ and just because someone has viewed your profile, they will a) want a relationship and b) reply to an email in minutes. In reality, it is fair to assume that if you don’t receive a reply from an email after that person has viewed your profile, there will be no point in sending a third or fourth email. Even if you do receive an email, by appearing too keen you can become a ‘pursuer’ and early on in a friendship, this will not come across well to a prospective partner.
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The Summer Olympics 2012 is almost with us and thankfully the voters have voted in Boris Johnson for his second term of office as The Mayor of London.
This is great news as loud ebullient Old Etonian Boris Johnson exudes a loud brash elite style of presence but he is also very warm and is perfect as the London Olympics voice box to offer a generous and warm welcome to all the athletes who will compete in the London Olympics 2012. Not forgetting all the millions of fans who will throng London they will love Boris because the guy is a class act of an outgrown schoolboy who is still blessed with a wicked sense of humor and a stick dry lash of wit from his nonstop babbling mouth
The Opening Ceremony of the London 2012 Olympic Games is on Friday, July 27, 2012 – and last for over two weeks
Shock Blonde Mayor Boris Johnson is Perfect as London Host for the Olympics 2012…
Fashion shoe aficionados must not miss this stylish shoe extravaganza live at the Design Museum Until July 1, 2012
Here is an official clip on the merits of the Christian Louboutin Shoe Exhibition – quote – A retrospective of shoemaker master Christian Louboutin’s work, examining the evolution of the French designer’s famous red-soled shoes from the launch of his label in 1991. The exhibition takes visitors through every stage of the design process, from initial drawing to production. On show alongside Louboutin stilettos, boots and sneakers are objects and images reflecting the designer’s inspiration, including art, architecture, cabaret, fairytale and film. – Clip attribution to TimeOut
Do not miss this fashion statement of excellence in design – quality and we proudly say without exception if you get the opportunity to buy and wear Christian Louboutin Shoes you are not only buying some of the best shoes in the world every owner proudly strides out making an impressive fashion statement.
Design Museum – 28 Butlers Wharf, Shad Thames, London, SE1 2YD
Christian Louboutin Shoe Exhibition Live at the Design Museum Until July 1…
Following on after USA where courtroom trials are now more popular than TV Soaps, along with a host more countries who make TV broadcasts of court room trials and proceedings
Here is an official comment on the UK Courts – quote – Some in the judiciary hope the first details could even be revealed in the Queen’s speech this week leading to a go-ahead in 2013. – more – The first hearings to be televised will be in the Court of Appeal involving both criminal and civil cases. – more – Up-coming appeals likely to be most attractive to TV bosses involve the Stephen Lawrence murder, former Met police chief Ali Dizaei and Wales footballer Ched Evans convicted last month of rape.
The TV companies BBC, ITN and Sky will be competing for the TV broadcasting rights
TV Cameras to be in UK Courts by 2013…
Iconic photography genius David Bailey who has been at the ascendancy peak of his complex craft for decades some of his black and white images of rock stars – models – singers – movie stars and celebrities down the years are hard to add a description to because adding the word stunning to the collection does not seem to give his immense talent and gifted skill sets his photography collection so richly deserves
David Bailey had this to say about his upcoming Olympics year Exhibition – quote – “They range, but the concentration is on the Sixties, Eighties and now,” – more – “Newham is the obvious place to do it – it’s where it all happened.”
For all young people who are not familiar with David Bailey they are well advised to visit Newham as this exhibition will be simply fantastic
David Bailey Exhibition East End July 14 to August 11 2012 at the Royal Docks Newham
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